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Why would he want my attention

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Join a discussion, or share the content of your choice with your friends and public, or involve yourself in what others like and share. You are attracted to or fall in love with someone, but you do not know whether the other person feels the same for you or not. You are little confused about your own feelings and his reactions are not helping you in any way. Each one of us has sailed in the similar boat and gone through the similar confusion at times.

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It's no surprise that a lot of guys aren't the greatest communicators. As a result, guys often feel more comfortable communicating their unconscious feelings with their actions, rather than with words.

Your mom's advice was right; when a guy is into you he will make fun and tease you. It obviously seems counter-intuitive, but when a guy wants to make an impression he will subconsciously feel the need to make fun and tease you. A sure sign of a guy who's trying to impress is a sudden lack of maturity. This can often take form in light and gentle teasing about your little quirks and personality.

Don't take it to heart and don't be offended, this is nothing but a good sign. Personally, it's how I relate to people, girls can also tease when they like someone. This behavior isn't only reserved for guys. So don't be afraid to serve it right back at him.

He will appreciate it. Have fun! When men are trying to impress, they will take any little opportunity to show off their physical strength. What can I say, it's kind of true. Keep your eye open for even subtle signs of showing off physical strength, like a subtle arm flex or "accidentally" showing off of washboard abs.

Most people don't lift their t-shirt up to their chest when they're casually stretching. Only if he's trying to impress. It worked though, didn't it? There is something inexplicably sexy about a guy who will intentionally put himself in the face of danger. It's even more attractive if he's doing it to catch your attention. This can manifest in many different forms, a common one is reckless driving To Fast To Furious style.

There are several different levels of eye-contact - from full-blown veracious sexual attraction to friendly and courteous - each one programmed by years of human evolution to subtly convey varying degree and levels of interest.

You will instantly know when a guy is unconsciously using the type that is designed to impress. It's powerful stuff. Consider yourself a lucky lady if you're on the receiving end of such a stare, it doesn't come around very often. A low and deep voice signals high testosterone levels in a man. It's kinda crazy that a microscopic thing has so much power over us and the decisions that we make.

When it comes to guys, it seems like they subconsciously know this, and will drop their voices down an octave or two when they are on an attractive girl. Although it's very subtle and done outside of conscious awareness, pay attention to the tale-tell sign of attraction. Also, pay close attention for slow and deliberate speech, when guys want to impress they will be careful to edit what they say and make sure to speak in an obvious and intentional way.

I like to play a game when I'm on the bus at a bar, or cafe, or basically any public space where people are talking and socializing. With enough practice as an outside observer, it becomes extremely easy to make accurate snap judgments about the connection between two people.

One DEAD give away of attraction is exaggerated and "loud" body language. When a guy is trying to impress a girl, he will gesticulate excessively during conversation basically unconsciously take up a lot of physical space. Show them the Alpha male side. I'm pretty sure I've seen some chimpanzees do the same thing at the zoo. That's how basic and primitive this tendency is. Similar to how guys will take up a lot of physical space with their body when they are trying to impress, they will do the same thing with their voice and words.

In a social context, a guy who is trying to impress will attempt to dominate over a group with language. I'm positive you have seen this go down IRL. This looks like speaking loudly over other people, interrupting them, maybe even putting down other people's point of view, it all depends on how talkative he is at baseline. But the basic principle stays the same. He is simply trying to assert himself within a group of friends to impress you. When a guy is trying to impress he will go from grow-up man to jittery pre-pubescent teen within fractions of a second.

That because guys are not great at direct communication, so they prefer to act out how they feel rather than saying it directly. Lucky you! I consider it a big compliment when a guy will start acting like a year-old boy because I know that it really means he's trying to be playful and show that he's interested without having to say it directly. Sometimes even the most modest guys will become a bit of a show-off around a girl they like, it's just science.

This may seem like it's a conscious and deliberate choice, but it's not always the case. Usually, these stories are pretty effective to catch attention, and that why guys continue to use this tactic because it's successful.

This behavior happens above conscious awareness, though. For example, when you know that you will see a guy you're trying to impress when you're getting ready you will make a deliberate choice to pick a top or dress that makes look like a million bucks.

The part that happens more unconsciously is trying to dress and present yourself in a way that you think he will like. Dudes definitely do this too, and it can be subtle, so pay close attention to the details. Do you wear black all the time, and slowly he is starting to wear more dark colors than usual. He could be trying to indirectly impress you and dress like the guy he thinks you want him to be. A great way to impress someone is to make them think that you like all the same things they do.

Or at least a lot of guys think so. Even go so far as to dabble in these hobbies and interests himself, even when your not there, so that he can bring it up the next time you hang out.

This desire is triggered under conscious awareness and will manifest as action taken towards participating in these types of activities. Once again, take it as a compliment and not clinginess or anything else, just means that he wants to get to know you better.

When guys are trying to impress their body language will say everything that they are too afraid to say in words. Sometimes men don't like to say things directly, so they rely on their body to do all the talking. Another common one is leaning in when talking to you, or light touching on the arm or shoulder to make an instant connection.

All of this is done by our monkey brains though. Basically, when you feel attracted to someone it's like there is a force inside of you guiding this behavior.

It's a great feeling to be on the giving and receiving the end of it. When guys are trying to impress they will subconsciously be driven to offer a helping hand and anticipate when you will need it.

Always judge a man on his actions, not words. When a guy goes out of his way to do something nice and thoughtful for you, without even having to ask, you have a sure sign that he is trying to impress you.

This may seem like a conscious decision on his part, but this isn't entirely the case. These behaviors feel almost magnetic and outside our control when we are struck by sudden attraction. When men are attracted a storm will begin to brew beneath the surface and will manifest in real life as these types of kind, selfless and genuine behaviors. And nothing feels better than being on the receiving end of that energy. We live in a world where we have a million things competing for our attention at any given second.

The longer someone can sustain their attention on you - without distraction - the more they are trying to impress. Crazy giggles are a sure sign of someone who is crushing hard. When it comes to dudes, the same rule applies. Even if you don't think of yourself as that funny of a girl, if you notice that he seems to be laughing or giggling excessively when he is around you, then that is just a way that he is trying to communicate his interest. If you're not sure, this is a great way to test someone's interest levels.

Just crack a couple silly jokes or tease them a little, if they react by laughing in a way that is grossly disproportionate to the funniness of the joke, chances are, he's into you. Oh, you! Share Tweet Email Comment Share. Related Topics Love. About The Author Canada-native, Psychology graduate, obsessed with figuring out why we do the things that we do.

Why does this guy want my attention so bad?

Some of us are great at the chase, but not so good at the kill. Being yourself is always a good place to start, but there are other things that you can do to keep a man by your side, help him to really appreciate you, and take that step to commit. Learn to speak his love language. First and foremost, find out what his love language is. He needs to feel that you value him and the things he does, however insignificant they may seem.

While it seems like society agrees on the fact that women are the most difficult to read when it comes to love, we disagree. To us, it seems like men are sometimes the hardest people to read as they don't even know what they want.

It's no surprise that a lot of guys aren't the greatest communicators. As a result, guys often feel more comfortable communicating their unconscious feelings with their actions, rather than with words. Your mom's advice was right; when a guy is into you he will make fun and tease you. It obviously seems counter-intuitive, but when a guy wants to make an impression he will subconsciously feel the need to make fun and tease you. A sure sign of a guy who's trying to impress is a sudden lack of maturity.

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Messages You have no messages. Notifications You have no notifications. All Topics. Type your question. Enter more details. He walks in front of me several times on purpose. He stands himself in my view so that I could look at him. He bumps into me on purpose. He's been doing this since he first ever saw me and its like he assumes that I like him or assumed that I was going to like him.

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Apr 15, - All the signs above are just his way of letting you know he wants your attention! Be attentive to these signs; they might just make a difference.








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