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I have no passion in my life

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Dear Polly,. I always love reading your columns because I feel like they hit the nail right on the head and I hope you can maybe hammer some sense into me. I have great friends who are caring, loyal, and like family to me. I was working as an assistant in an art gallery and now am taking a break to find another job after traveling with my parents who the fuck am I to complain , and I feel totally unmoored. I have some idea of what jobs I am looking for, work at a museum or a nonprofit in development or arts education, jobs I think are reasonable paths toward a career.

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What If You Are Not Passionate About Anything? [Updated]

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We convince ourselves that only a couple of types of people are allowed to have this in their lives. We convince ourselves that being passionate is reserved for the following people: the naive, people who aren't in student-loan debt, people who are unrealistic and so on.

Passion for a logical, hard-working person is seemingly out of the realm of possibility. Or is it? Could it be that you haven't given passion a chance? Has the pessimistic side of you been holding you back? Let's tackle this. Like, right now. Because life is too short to sit on the sidelines, watching other people go after their dreams.

You are the captain of your own life. There are no rules for how this whole passion thing is supposed to work. A lot of the time, the problem isn't actually that we don't know what our passion is. Yes, I said it. If you are living your life without passion day in and day out, it is, by default, mundane.

And if you have convinced yourself that your life should be nothing but paying bills and meeting adult deadlines, then you yourself are being mundane. Don't tell me what to do. Believe it or not, I'm an extremely responsible grown up — most of the time. My bills are mapped out on a meticulous calendar. I have a full-time job with benefits that leaves me exhausted at the end of the day. I pay rent on time. I read the news.

I'm an adult, okay? And I listen to this voice every day. Have you ever seen The Little Mermaid? You know the part when Ariel opens up her heart and is singing "I want more" to the heavens? The part where she literally is the princess to a sea king and seemingly has everything, but there is still something missing in her life?

The essence of that moment dwells in my heart every single day. There is more to living our lives than showing up to work, paying bills, and washing, rinsing, repeating. I know this. And the best part is? You know this, too. You know that deep down, even on your worst day, there is something in your life you have dreamed of accomplishing.

And you deserve that. You deserve that crazy rush of adrenaline. You deserve to bash the mundane and kick the wall down and re-build something powerful. You have always deserved this. The truth is that there are absolutely no rules as to how your life should look. We tend to think that you either have to have a job with full benefits, or you have to rebel away from the system and live the gig-life and travel often. But the reality is, you get to live your life as you choose.

You don't have to follow a set career path to live up to your family's expectations. You don't have to do what you think you're supposed to do. And half the time, we are doing what we think we're supposed to be doing. We are told to not be selfish. To focus on our partner. To be there for our family. And then we crumple by the wayside because we have put the world first.

So I'm telling you to be selfish right now. Because if you figure this passion thing out, you're about to inspire every single person in your life. Let's get started. When seeking your true passion or trying to figure out the route to pursue one, it's easy to find every excuse in the book to prolong the journey. I'm calling your bluff. You are an intelligent person. You have thoughts. And therefore, you know what you want. It feels like you don't because you have been burying down what you want so deeply, you wouldn't recognize it even if it knocked on your door and watched an afternoon of HGTV with you.

You know what you want. We all have an inner voice. Something that slowly and carefully whispers what we love in life. My inner voice tells me lots of exciting stuff. There's actually a lot of stuff that I love.

So how do you make sense of all of it when you're going through life being a responsible human? Keep a notebook nearby. Start jotting down the blurbs of happy ideas that come your way. It may make zero sense to you at first. My list reads the following: Disney, Halloween, Fall, Theatre, storytelling, theme parks, circus, carnival. It's a weird list, but a specific one if you think about it. I clearly have a theme going. When I've pieced together all of the elements that my inner voice has been telling me, it's helped me push myself into the direction that I want to pursue.

I've worked in theme parks. I've written plays. I'm finally starting to find ways to push my passions together to understand what jobs are out there for people like me. I just had to persistently listen to my inner voice. If this process is still a massive struggle, let's think back to a truly innocent moment of our childhood.

That moment when a teacher or parent asked us what we wanted to be when we grew up. If you think about this as a grown up, it actually seems silly that we ask kids what we want to be as a grown up. As a kid, you have very little life experience and zero work experience to base our decision-making on. What this truly means, then, is that when you are asking a child what they want to be when they grow up, you are asking them to make a decision based on their gut instinct.

We could all learn a lesson from kids. Gut instincts are our best instincts, and yet we let that stuff drift off into oblivion and write it off as irresponsible. Think back to when you were a kid. What were your dreams? What did you say that you wanted out of life when you wrote your college application essays? How did you envision your future? Your answer might inform the true passion you've been looking for. You can't just pursue that route. Focus back on the child version of yourself for a moment.

Let's say that you had wanted to be a cook. What things about being a cook were interesting to you as a child? Did you like to try different foods? Did you like the activity of helping your parents cook? Maybe your destiny isn't necessarily to become a cook. Think about the different ways that this passion can branch out. Food Blogger. Food Instagrammer. Cooking Instructor. Personal Shopper.

Trying a new dish at home every week while watching a scary movie my favorite personal passion. Step outside of your head for a minute and you might find your answer. If you could start over tomorrow, what would you do?

What If You Don’t Have A Passion In Life?

But how do you find your passion when you have no idea what you want? Note: I originally wrote this article as an answer to a question on Quora. I answer a new question there almost every morning.

You sit at your desk, feeling drained by your job. You wish you were somewhere else, doing anything else. Sound familiar?

But what happens if you don't know what your passion is? This isn't just an issue for those beginning their careers, it can be a problem for those stuck in jobs that they don't enjoy. It's all too easy to fall into a routine that leaves you bored or unfulfilled: you want to make the switch but you're not sure what to. Finding your passion could be easier than you think. By answering these questions honestly, you could work out what to do with the rest of your life.

Ask Polly: I’m 25 and My Life Has Been Great, So Why Don’t I Have a Passion?

Perhaps you've heard the saying, "if you do what you love you'll never work a day in your life. So, how do you find your passion in life? While being passionate about something doesn't mean you have to turn it into your career, having a passion can help give meaning your life, and it certainly makes living more enjoyable. Personally, doing something I don't like can feel as meaningful and burdensome as pushing a 1, pound rock up a hill like Sisyphus, a character in Greek Mythology who was tasked with pushing a boulder up a hill and watching it roll back down for all of eternity. So, what's the alternative? The first time I moved to a new city when I was 25 to attend a writing program, I had to take a part-time job to make ends meet. We all have to do things we don't want to in life, and I accepted that I was paying my dues. I spent 25 hours a week peddling baby clothes — some that cost more than my car payment — to tourists and wealthy local parents. I also had to fold and inspect all of the pajamas before putting them on display. Because children's clothes are sprayed with flame retardant, which I am allergic to, my arms swelled up like two huge, red balloons.

What do you do when you have no passion or drive?

We convince ourselves that only a couple of types of people are allowed to have this in their lives. We convince ourselves that being passionate is reserved for the following people: the naive, people who aren't in student-loan debt, people who are unrealistic and so on. Passion for a logical, hard-working person is seemingly out of the realm of possibility. Or is it? Could it be that you haven't given passion a chance?

Well, there are a lot of us out there who are not passionate about any ONE thing. We are passionate about a combination of things!

Ask what makes you come alive and do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive. After a few years in the trenches of the non-profit world, my job had become so emotionally draining that it was taking a vicious toll on my health and causing gripping anxiety attacks. I felt exhausted more often than not, and I was scrambling to find scraps of happiness in my previously joy-filled life.

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Search Questions or Ask New:. Top Rated Answers. I could sit here and try to motivate you or tell you poetic things that give you hope but unfortunately I too am wondering the same thing.

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Passion is a feeling that many people misunderstand. And this confusion leads them to conclude that they have no passion for anything. Know what passion feels like to you. The traditional vision of passion is of a person who wakes up in the morning with a spring in their step, chomping at the bit, and raring to go. For you, passion might not fill you with an intense fire. It might be more of a glowing ember.

If You Have No Passion For Anything, Read This

I meet a lot of people these days, a lot more than I used to as a trader. I was the kid in middle school who went outside and ate his lunch on the grass, seriously. I meet a lot of people my age these days. Most people are basically just doing what they are told, or what they think they are supposed to do. This in no way makes them a bad or lesser person.

It's something you feel inside you. So if you don't know what you want in life, that needs to be your first step. You need to create a vision of you.


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