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Then I realized recently that a more intriguing situation is: what if you are attracted to someone who already has a boyfriend or girlfriend? The fact is, and I feel you, this can be devastating. Yet again, there is almost nothing you can do. But you might want to run through the following exercise to make yourself feel better and to understand what you should do your next step. This is the first question you should ask yourself, because if the answer is a NO you will save yourself a lot of trouble.

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Dating Advice: What to Do When Your Crush Has a Girlfriend

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FAQ on Coronavirus and Mefi : check before posting, cite sources; how to block content by tags. I like a guy who has a girlfriend. What should I do? He's very nice, smart, and fairly handsome. He appeared a little awkward at first but once I got to know him, he's actually one of the few guys that I can have a long and meaningful conversation with. Although our conversations are mostly school-related, he seems to remember a lot of details from our convo, such as where I used to work a few years ago, what my goals are, etc.

He recently joined the same student organization and volunteered at the same research lab with me. I'm very inexperienced in dating so I'm not sure if he's interested in me or not. However, my gut tells me that he might be interested because he often asks me to attend certain meetings or events together, he also occasionally calls me to ask questions which he could simply ask through text or in person.

I recently found out that he has a girlfriend and they both live together so I'm assuming his relationship is pretty serious. Therefore I'm trying to keep my distance from him and not cross the line. Please advise. Thank you! He has a girlfriend whom he lives with. You know what to do. Do nothing. If that works for you, be friends. Don't get involved.

Keep your distance so you don't get stronger feelings. If he was interested and pursuing you while in a relationship, he's unethical. If he's not interested, you're going to get hurt and frustrated and it's not fair to him if he's only feeling platonic things for you. Always step far, far away from early crushes on people already in relationships. Unless you're poly. It never ends well. And it happens to lots of people so don't feel bad.

That's how I treat friends Maybe he does like you more, who knows, but even if that's the case, this isn't a good idea to pursue. Concentrate on trying to meet someone else.

Try online dating, if you're having trouble meeting someone in person. He is not interested. Many men don't treat women as full human beings that they can be friends with, because of the way society has conditioned them. It can be confusing, but also delightful! He's just acting friendly and being a nice person. Be his friend! Find someone else to crush on, and don't nurture any feelings beyond the platonic for this guy. Continue liking him, just not in a romantic way. Find a new man to crush on, and the feelings will dissipate.

Yes, this. He might be; plenty of people in relationships pursue side options. Whether you think engaging in that is sexy or cheesy is a different question, though, and getting involved in drama within your grad program is never a good idea. It sounds like very positive attention from him. He remembers you and treats you well. Remember that! It's a good experience to have. This sounds like some new experiences for you, and so you're seeing how the body can convert those positive experiences into some pretty strong feelings directed back at him.

My Rx is to go out more! Mix n mingle. And get this positive attention from other guys too. Acclimatize to the feelings and then you will be well balanced to pick a suitable and available partner.

Also respect his relationship situation. It is bad karma all around to try to make something of this, consciously or otherwise. But internalize this good experience and let it be a touchstone for what to look for as you mix n mingle.

Peepsburg at PM on October 27, [ 3 favorites ]. You described him as a little awkward, right? I imagine he remembers all these details about you and such specifically because he is kind of awkward and takes social interaction more seriously than would the kind of person who finds socializing very easy.

I think romance starts with friends and at the very least, he wants to be friends. But the problem is, he has a girlfriend so you can't be more than friends. I've had plenty of friends and been in situations myself where someone decided to give into liking someone who wasn't available. They always seemed to think they could just cleanly get the desired person to leave their significant other without any problems and it never worked out that way.

In all likelihood he either won't leave and will reject you, or he's a cheater and he'll just cheat on her.

Both bad scenarios and you'll just end up getting hurt. If he really likes you and decides he wants to be with you, he'll break up with his girlfriend. Until then, don't approach this as a possible romance. Personally, I'd walk away from even just being friends and keep a very healthy distance. When I recognize I'm liking someone I absolutely can't have, I stamp it out before it gets too strong.

If you would like to be friends with him, meet his girlfriend. Also if he is great, she will probably be great, and then you know two great people! Don't be weird about it, just say, hey, I remember you said your girlfriend likes tapas, do the two of you want to go to the new tapas place with me next week? I'm afraid to dine alone at a new place and you've talked so much about her that I'm dying to meet her! Or whatever. Host a barbecue, tell people to bring their S.

Stop seeing and talking to him. It's probably not the advice you want to hear, but -- even if he does only have platonic intentions, then it's not fair to yourself to keep exposing yourself to a situation where you're going to get hung up on an unrequited crush and miss opportunities with guys who want to be your friend and more. If he is "interested" in you, then he's an asshole.

That's the term for guys who pursue girls while living with a girlfriend, and he'd totally do it to you, too. You've answered your own question.

The thing is, you do know what to do. You just don't want to do it--which is totally understandable, we have all been there and we have all ignored the advice I'm about to give: See him less and talk to him less. Do not, under any circumstances, tell him you Like him. Your gut, as usual for gut feelings, is telling you what you want to hear; you like him, so you're interpreting his actions as though he likes you too. Stay courteous, of course; there's no need to be rude.

But spend less time around him and spend more time meeting single guys. One thing I'm kind of iffy about suggesting because I don't know your particular dynamics, but what the hell: "Hey, you're a great friend.

Do you have any friends who'd be looking to date an awesome girl? So this guy has a live-in girlfriend, not a wife, right? No kids? It's really not uncommon for boys and girls to look for some "encouragement" if they want to leave a relationship. Ie, yes this guy is interested in you, as encouragement to break it off with his current girlfriend.

He might cheat with you, break up with his girlfriend He might break up with her, and spend a little time with you, and then break it off to pursue some other "lucky" girl. He might not even break it off with her, and string you along until inevitably he gets caught and it's just a disaster. Or he might dump her, take up with you, and y'all get married and live happily ever after.

Speaking as a stranger on the Internet, I have no idea how likely any of these outcomes might be. But it seems obvious to me that you want this guy. You owe it to yourself to ponder the possible outcomes and consequences if you decide to try to get him. There are plenty of guys you can have long and meaningful conversations with. A taken person is heartbreak in a bottle. So some above are saying, well, if he's looking outside his relationship, then he's fair game and it's ok I call B.

He Has a Girlfriend, But Flirts With Me! What to Do If He Likes You

FAQ on Coronavirus and Mefi : check before posting, cite sources; how to block content by tags. I like a guy who has a girlfriend. What should I do? He's very nice, smart, and fairly handsome.

Jorge's relationship advice is based on experience and observation. He's seen many people—including himself—get seduced and hurt by love.

Updated: February 9, References. Have you fallen for a guy who already has a girlfriend? Can you just not get this guy out of your head because you have to be with him? If you're set on this guy, then there are a few strategies you can use to try to get the guy.

First, please understand that I want no part in ruining someone's relationship. To cause someone pain is the very last thing I want. I am not here to get advice on how to "get him to break up with her". I'm here to share my story and perhaps hear back from others who have experienced the same thing. I met this man a few years back, and there was instantaneous physical attraction to him. We had run into each other a few times, briefly spoken and that was all. But soon we became inadvertently involved in the same projects, and our friendship continued to grow He knows how I feel about him, because I told him.

Well, one of the guys is really nice and, of course, not too bad looking! We flirt now and again, but I can't shake this feeling that we'd be perfect together. We literally finish each other's sentences, and I often look up from work that I'm doing and see him looking at me. He says my name a lot, we agree on almost everything and we have similar personalities.






Apr 5, - You can only flirt and tease. Have class and don't goad him to talk about his GF. If you show restraint and respect for the sanctity of a GF/BF relationship, you  Should I tell a guy who has a girlfriend that I like.








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